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Why I Wanted to Make More Friends

July 20th, 2010

introvert

I used to be a hardcore introvert and I still possess some introvertial characteristics to this day. I was nervous around people and my heart would pound rapidly every time I say something and an entire group of people set their eyes on me. I was shy. During friends’ outings I would be the quite one in the group nurturing my food & drinks without saying a word, and silently wonder why did I even accept this invitation to come here. Deep down I didn’t believe in friendships and needless to say, I was lonely.

My introvertial characteristics were the results of a set of philosophical values that I subconciously form when I was growing up. I believed one should dedicate her time entirely to her career success and pursuit of ultimate freedom, happiness & wealth; Hanging out with people and do things was a waste of time in my opinion, which was too extreme and twisted now that I think about it. After experiencing countless times of unexplained frustration, anxiety, depression and suicidal thoughts, I had come to the conclusion that I was too lonely to live a normal life, and I needed to change.

Friendship website – Bloom or Doom?

July 19th, 2010

 

If you’re looking for a friendship website where you can connect with people online and develop a long & meaningful friendly relationship with them, then I’m going to have to disappoint you because from my experience those websites just don’t work well.

Truth be told, even though there’re plenty of websites for friendship being scattered across the entire cyber space, some of them even have fancy features and contents such as friendship e cards, online friendship gifts, famous friendship quotes & friendship sayings etc., everything friendship related, there’s only a slim chance that you’ll be able to find good friends there.

People make friends because they find them trustworthy, dependable, share common interests, have similar values & possess good nature, not because they’re desperate and want to find friends. I know I’m being very harsh here, but I have to be harsh since it’s probably one of the most important lessons that we as human beings have to learn.